If I had it my way we'd have sex shops in every neighborhood right next to the local McDonald's and we'd talk about sex in every school and we wouldn't give films with sexual content NC ratings while slapping PG ratings on mindnumbingly violent films. And, if you'll permit me just one more humble suggestion, how about we tell our kids exactly what Boy Butter is and why it exists and stop acting like it's something to be ashamed of? How about instead of demonizing sex and the people who are looking for it and having it, we demonize our society that labels the sight of a bulging crotch plastic or otherwise as indecent and embarrassing and threatening. Sexual liberation comes in all kinds of shapes and sizes and flavors and we should all be able to do whatever we want as long as everyone involved is consenting and no one is being hurt -- unless they are asking to be. And he's not alone. But for those of you who are already headed to the comments section below to tell me you love sex, you just think it's something that should be kept private, that's fine. A New York Times article entitled " Chelsea's Risque Businesses " from earlier this year, which highlights a number of gay parents living in what is perhaps one of the most famously gay neighborhoods in the world and who are now lamenting the fact that their children have to grow up just feet away from sex shops. I'll save my full rant about sex education for another time.
We're supposed to be leading by example and showing that sex is not scary, sex is not dirty, sex doesn't need to be with just one partner and in a healthy, happy society, sex should be an important and inspiring way of connecting with one another. Now that we can get married and queer people having children is becoming more and more accepted, it seems we've forgotten that sexual liberation has always been, in my mind at least, a cornerstone of queer liberation. Even in the face of AIDS, which has ravaged our community and caused so many gay men -- myself included -- to tragically equate sex with death, we didn't stop looking for opportunities to get off, we just found ways to do it more safely. So, let's make a deal: When you do that, you're buying into the same broken nightmare we've been fighting against for years. Unbridled by the restraints of "traditional" relationships and until very recently solely straight institutions like marriage and the nuclear family, we've long enjoyed the pursuit of sexual relations whenever, wherever, however and with whomever we could get our sweaty gay mitts on. Sexual liberation comes in all kinds of shapes and sizes and flavors and we should all be able to do whatever we want as long as everyone involved is consenting and no one is being hurt -- unless they are asking to be. But you have to stop telling me and everyone else that it's unsavory to want sex simply for sex's sake or how it is or isn't OK to find it or how often it's OK to want it and with whom and where. What should we do in the meantime? But you know what I can't understand, and furthermore, won't stand for? Of course you can. Oh, I've got it! I believe sex and pleasure are nothing short of magical and transformative. Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. Can you be queer and want a monogamous relationship and two kids and a chocolate labradoodle curled up at the end of your bed where you have sex once a week in the missionary position after the We can't get married yet. I believe sex is a gift that allows us to connect with others and ourselves for a night, for a lifetime or just for 25 minutes during our lunch break. And it seems some queers think we've just been having all of this sex and pushing back against all of these sexual boundaries for all of these years as just another way to pass the time until we could become just like straight people. I don't need to see you on XTube being bent over your Ikea coffee table though I'll watch if you want to send me a link. Also on The Huffington Post: No, pleasure has never been a dirty word for us, though many of our straight counterparts who are, let's admit, equally interested in the same wondrous carnal arts but, thanks to our society's sturdy puritan mores, remain unable or forbidden to indulge in them or at the very least admit they secretly do indulge in them may wish it otherwise. We can get married, we can have children, we can be upstanding members of society and we can still happily and proudly get our brains fucked out as hard and as often as we want by as many people as we want without being blamed for ruining everything for everyone. Other gays playing sex police -- and it's starting to happen more and more. A New York Times article entitled " Chelsea's Risque Businesses " from earlier this year, which highlights a number of gay parents living in what is perhaps one of the most famously gay neighborhoods in the world and who are now lamenting the fact that their children have to grow up just feet away from sex shops. Instead, let's welcome the stunning progress that we've recently made with open arms and unzipped pants. I believe queer people have been appointed by some higher power to help change the way that our society thinks about sex. But there's a difference between privacy and a refusal to accept, understand and discuss sex as the natural, beautiful and, yes, ridiculously hot and thrilling and sometimes raunchy event it should be.
Video about gay man on man sex:
Home From the Gym -- Gay Short Film
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